Desiderata

‘Desiderata’

Something that is needed or wanted.

I LOVE the power of words and the deep meaning they can relay when they are strung together in a beautiful sentiment. When we read words written by others, inspired from places of silence, thought up or provoked from a higher muse, we can find glimpses, lines, and deeper meanings for each and every one of us. Writers, artists, musicians, I believe bring us gifts through their individual inspiration. They help unlock or open places within us that lead to deeper things we may need or desire.

I came across a lovely poem, Desiderata by Max Ehrmann and had to share.

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

by Max Ehrmann ©1927

After you read this poem–find a Phrontistery [a place for thinking] and ask yourself, ‘What stands out to you?’ What pieces or lines speak to your ‘desires’ or desiderata?

I believe there will be lines that will stand out to you and allow you to reflect on something needed or necessary to ponder on a grander scale. I had my husband read this and share with me what stood out. He spoke of the work line first because, obviously work is often at the top of his mind. Then, he spoke of the line: listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Because he was visiting with his elderly mother who would talk on and on and on and this line helped him to be patient and listen with more of an understanding of where she is at in her life. She just wants to share and needs her son there to listen and care.

For me, the lines that stuck out were: Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. Because, to me, I am always humbled and in awe of the simple thought that we are so divine in our existence and that God is aware of how our lives should unfold. That is a beautiful sentiment to me.

May you sit with this poem…these words and find something that speaks to you.

-Peace, Love and Light to you. xoxo

To: a gift of INTENTION

The intention behind our giving and receiving is the most important thing. When the act of giving is joyful, when it is unconditional and from the heart, then the energy behind the giving increases many times over. But if we give grudgingly, there is no energy behind that giving. If we feel we have lost something through the act of giving, then the gift is not truly given and will not cause increase. -Deepak Chopra

I just turned 50 yesterday and it was a mix of emotions. I just lost my brother a couple months ago, so a song came on that made me think how short life is, for some even shorter and I broke down in tears. But, probably the hardest part of my birthday, my one and only child did not do one thing for me. I strive to live with such intention, so to hear her talk about not having time to write a card, my heart ached. For whatever reason, cards, words, the emotional ties that bind me to my people mean more than any gift I could ever receive. Especially the words and sentiments from those closest to me. Part of the day, I watched her jump on instagram, secretly hoping she was going to make a post about her love, care and appreciation she felt for her mom. Partially, because she had just done one for her Dad for Father’s Day. I kept waiting to get a loving text, a little note…something that said she cares. We have been struggling in our relationship, so I assumed she would especially take the time to do or say something because of how hard its been between us. The day ended with me lying in bed alone, crying at the degree in which she had no care for me on my one and only birthday. It broke my heart on some level.

On a BRIGHTER side….The 2 greatest gifts from the day: INTENTION. My sweet husband had orchestrated pale blue and white balloons to go along with a tiny typed quote that was held by a piece of drift wood. The whole idea: the sky and my love for it. The quote, “An awake heart is like a sky that pours light.” -Hafiz. He also left a vase of flowers & a “book about us” he had filled in. It was such a beautiful sentiment that my husband took the time to plan and create such an intentional gift. Thank you, love. xoxo

The other gift: A woman who inspires me daily. There is a woman in my neighborhood that we have been getting to know and she is a shining example of intentional giving. She has got to be in her late 70’s or 80’s. Not even sure, but she has the best attitude and always spreads love and light in all she does. Her and her sweet husband [they go by Patty Peace & Jack Joy] that is battling cancer are always running little gifts, notes, packages and dropping them off to various people in the neighborhood.

Every time I see a grocery bag left on the porch, I smile, “Patty!!” sings from my lips and I am excited to open the precious, intentional gift. The morning of my birthday I gently pulled out a cardboard shirt box that had flower stickers covering the top with tiny quotes that were handwritten. My heart smiled at the very sight of such care, time and intention that was put in. Curly ribbon is always a bright staple of this cute lady. I opened the box to find her usual kindness—little pieces of herself to share. A bandana with a tag & handwritten note that described the many uses of such an accessory. There were also a couple scarfs, some hair ties with plastic baubles—I instantly gave one to my daughter & we wore them as birthday bracelets. She always includes a tiny, pocket Kleenex and little notes of love, all neatly wrapped with individual pieces of colorful tissue paper. Everything done with such care.

It reminds me to always seek to be as intentional and mindful as Patty. To live in such a way that you shower others with gifts of intention and care. To slow down and take the time to write notes, to include quotes and sincere sentiments.

The next morning my husband and I were on a walk with our two dogs & who did we run into? Beautiful Patty. She lit up when she saw me wearing her gifted bandana. I had it wrapped and tied around my neck. She beamed and said, “Oh, you are wearing it! I love how you tied it. It is wonderful.” The tiny gesture, the little love exchanged was a gift to all of us.

We are gifts to one another’s lives. Life is in session and we must show up and present our best life with genuine intention. Thank you, Patty & Jack

PS my husband had a sweet talk with our daughter the next day & she broke down in tears. She knew she needed to be better & felt so bad that I had been so hurt. She secretly wrote me a VERY LOVING and HEARTFELT card & left it on my pillow the next night. It was a sweet surprise. It was also very needed. 😉 and appreciated. We must always remember to never give up on one another either.

xoxo Peace, Love and Light. THANKS for the INTENTIONAL LOVE. -H

We ALL need CONNECTION

I LOVE the origin of words…CONNECTION

Where did the word connection come from? Etymology.[the study of the origin of words] From Middle English conneccioun, connexioun, conneccyon, conneccion, from Latin connexionem (nominative connexio (“a conclusion, binding together”)), from connectō, an alternative spelling of cōnectō (“I bind together”), from compound of co- (“together”) and nectō (“I bind”).

So, to bind together is a beautiful way to describe our need for connection. Like a coming together to bind or bond. Last night my husband and I were whale watching from a bench along the Oregon coast when a young man stood near us looking out into the vast horizon. We started to talk to him and shared with him that there were a number of whales to see. He perked right up. We knew he was not local and began to ask questions and inquire where he was from. He chimed in & told us he was from Germany. He began to tell us about his bike excursion down the coast & that he had been traveling for months through Canada, and just left Washington and was headed to California. Then a whale blew & he began to see the number of whales, “That is a lot of whales,” He smiled. We smiled and kept asking him questions. We then invited him to come stay for a meal, shower and a good night sleep in a bed. He thought for a moment and then said, “Yes. I accept your invitation.” We directed him to some cliffs beyond the bench and told him we would throw his bike in our truck and head out shortly.

It was such a fun evening getting to connect with a complete stranger from a foreign land. We had him share his highlights of dog-mushing in Canada, learned about his siblings and family in Germany, talked about the Ukrainian war and its impact in Europe, back and forth we shared over Mexican food by our outdoor fire pit. We all walked the beach together, watched the sun set and then relaxed for the evening with more questions and the movie, “The Life of Walter Mitty.” Our new friend, Marios took it all in and was so gracious in all he did. He snacked, smiled and indulged us when we told him he had to try one of our favorite, relaxing, family rituals…footie socks! He looked at us very strange and said, “What are footie socks?” His puzzled face was priceless. We showed him how to apply the cheap, moisturizing foot socks & the whole family had them on while we watched the movie. He was amazed and took silly photos with our dogs and his socks. “Crazy Americans!” We all laughed.

It was a great time connecting with another human living a different experience. We are all like that. Different circumstances, thoughts, governments, ideas, beliefs, desires, culture, family…but in situations like this, we are all just people…getting to know one another, connecting, sharing, learning and caring.

Connection gives you new perspectives, it helps you see the world from various views, and allows you to just LOVE. We are just people. We are all in this together. We genuinely enjoyed hearing him share stories about different people he has met along the way. He shared how he thought the trip would be harder and lonelier, but for him, he has felt more connected. He has met many people his age along the way, made new friends in various places and shared that when he started the trip he was much more introverted and shared that the journey has helped him so much.

It was wonderful. This morning I wrote him a small note to pass along our info. and stay connected. In the note, I attached the quote from the movie, Walter Mitty that was the Life Magazine Motto…

This movie, this quote, this connection with our new friend help solidify how important and life affirming connection truly is. We need to “find each other, and to feel.” There is real purpose and meaning when we get to notice and value another person and their journey. It is a beautiful gift.

Reach out and connect with a stranger, begin a conversation, open a door and smile, share in the tiny connections that help us find, feel and connect.

Thank you, Marios for being authentically you, being open and willing to be part of our family for a day and to share in your journey. What a gift. We are all gifts to one another if we open our hearts and seek the connections.

Be safe, friend.

Peace, Love and Light. -H