We had a light dusting of snow last night at my house, but the underlying layer of ice sent cars slipping and sliding out of control. Some people took it upon them self to speed up to avoid cars that slid off the road, only to slide faster. Some people tried to control their car with slow motion & even then there were other obstacles. The biggest obstacle–the giant, salt truck with the snow plow. I am sure everyone saw him coming & felt a little relief that the roads would be better after he did his work. But that relief quickly turned to terror as this huge truck began to slide sideways & barely missed a crossover that was parked on the side of the road after sliding off. Then it was a further chain reaction of no control. Each car that came around the corner began to swerve and slide without control & no where to go but into the large truck.
I watched in great fear of more people coming & a larger pile up. The snow plow literally slid into my neighbors yard & I wondered how this huge truck was going to get down our little hill without taking out more vehicles, trees or possibly sliding into a house.
The police came, but all they could do is park their car at the bottom & try to walk (mostly sliding) up the road to help the situation.
All control was gone. It was just a bunch of people trying to better a bad situation. People were getting out of their cars to talk to the police & began sliding down the hill. At the bottom of the hill was a car pile up & officers trying to fix various situations. Still the large salt truck blocked the road. With everything going on, a large truck came flying around the corner without warning & going fast. Luckily the salt truck had a big enough gap between him and the road that this truck carelessly plowed through. Everyone watched in shock, but knowing that could have been an even worse outcome.
Everyone handles control differently. Some people think they can just plow through a tough situation without warning. While someone else may take things extremely slow with caution. Some people just go with the flow & hope for the best.
Sometimes in some situations, whether it is an icy road, a relationship that doesn’t go the way you desire, a boss you don’t agree with or something where you have no control, sometimes you just have to let go. You have to give up the control of what you want to happen, you have to allow a change, you may need to seek to learn a hard lesson…you have to let life happen and be okay with the outcome.
“Let life happen to you. Believe me: life is in the right, always.” -Rainer Maria Rilke
This crazy situation this morning once again helped me see how we can only do so much and may have to let go of any control we may think we hold.
Every car this morning left with the confidence they were in control & were quickly humbled as they slid out of control. In so many life situations we can try to create an outcome or take control, but in reality, Life is and will always be in the right—because God steers the course, takes the wheel, helps guide us to our best destination. It may not be the destination we want–a struggle, something hard, a lesson learned, a humbling moment, etc, but He just desires us to trust His direction, His bigger plan.
We just need to let go and just allow—to trust what will happen.
“When you surrender and release the illusion of control, you begin to free-fall toward your destiny of a grand reunion with your original-self; a self uncorrupted by the world’s false lessons of fear and control.”
In my previous post which was a little over a week ago I talked about taking each step in life & trying to have a higher perspective.
My little family got back from a vacation a little over 2 weeks ago. My husband had a horrible work situation come at him the day he got back. He was literally demoted (the company had never once talked to him about any negative work habits or issues), they took away his upcoming bonus (this next month) & the past couple of weeks was literally a meeting every other day for him to prove his worth, what he was doing & piling more work on him. He had NEVER been treated with such lack of disrespect in his entire career. He was completely blindsided.
A couple months before our vacation my husband and I decided to begin looking for another job because of how the company had handled some other employee situations. I have been sending out fifty plus resumes & applications to various companies. Nothing had surfaced. I just kept trying & even harder in the past couple of weeks, once his work turned on him & he was the new target. The past couple of weeks has been the HARDEST job situation in his life.
A little over a week ago my husband reached out to a few friends to see if they knew of any potential job opportunities. My little family has been praying and praying for a door to open. We were getting desperate. My husband’s light was dimming & every day he went to work was a fight and struggle.
I had him take a pebble in his pocket every day to rub and remind himself to take each day one day at a time. A sweet reminder to keep stepping forward over the obstacles.
A couple days passed & one of his friends called him & gave him a possible lead. It was an answer to prayer. That call led to a first interview & a few days later a second. There was a possible light. We were HOPING and PRAYING & saying we need to have HOPE and FAITH that this position would work out. The interview went well & then led to an in person meet and greet that was yesterday (Friday)!!
While all this was going on my husband’s current boss was still having him create schedules, maps, job details, newsletters, training…..(ironically, for a guy who was doing such a horrible job they sure wanted him to take on a whole bunch of important roles) & my husband was scheduled for another ‘hot seat’ meeting with the boss to discuss more details and responsibilities at noon (yesterday).
My little families prayers became even more frequent in the last couple of days. We were hoping for a miracle–that he would meet this potential boss in person, it would go great, they would offer him the job & then he could walk into his current job & give notice. [Which was a pretty BIG ask of God. My husband has had previous job opportunities at high level leadership & it usually takes months for interviews & high-level meet&greets]. We knew it was a very far out prayer request & the likely hood was slim, but we prayed any way. We sent a note out to our family to pray & my husband went to his interview.
My husband met his potential boss & right up front the gentleman said, “Jon, I had a couple VP’s in town, but they had to leave for a conference out of state & would not be able to meet you, which would probably delay things.” My husband immediately knew there would most likely not be an offer. They walked and talked business for a couple hours & then the gentleman said, “Jon, how are you feeling about things? What do you think?” My husband boldly said, “I am excited. I am ready to start today!” with enthusiasm, then my husband followed-up with, “But I know you probably need to talk to the powers that be and make a final decision.” The gentleman quickly responded, “No, I am a decision maker & I feel good about this direction. Let’s do it!” They shook hands & my husband was offered the job. He went to his current job & gave his notice.
My husband called me elated! He had a huge weight lifted from him & relief filled his soul. Literally two days before, my husband was depressed, heavy-hearted & would not even come home after work because he felt his energy and spirit were so dark & did not want to burden his family. I was genuinely worried for him. I knew we needed a miracle to pull him out of the dark pit he was mentally in. I prayed, my daughter prayed, We all prayed and we can truly say…miracles do exist!!
If you or anyone you care about is struggling with any portion of their life, look up to the sky, the stars, walk through the forest and share a heart-felt prayer. God is listening.
We needed this door to open and it was so perfectly timed.
THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU.
For years my sweet family enjoys going places and finding rocks and pebbles we can tumble and treasure. We have big vases full of rocks we have published from oceans we have walked, rivers we have crossed, many places we have been.
We just got back from a trip in the caribbean and while I was there I picked up a simple bracelet that has a bunch of beads that look like a cobblestone path. I looked at it and thought, “this will remind me to take things in life one step at a time.”
As we returned home, my husband went back to work & was greeted by a very hostile situation that made him wonder if he would still have a job. I looked at the bracelet and thought, “We just need to take this one step at a time.”
No matter what obstacles come before us, all we can do is breathe and have faith that it will be a step in a better direction.
Another beautiful metaphor about pebbles is our influence on others.
I love the sweet, simple reminders that we can find in nature. There are so many reminders of life’s great lessons.
Here is another thought to share
My husband is going to go back into his work situation and face another challenging week. I gave him a pebble to carry in his pocket to remember that each step is either an obstacle or a stepping stone and that a simple gesture can create a lasting ripple.
May we all take on the faith we need to take our challenges and make them a stepping stone for our lives.
Peace to you. -H
I had a lost cat camping out on my porch for over a month. I wasn’t sure who it belonged to, so I posted ads looking for the owner, asked around my neighborhood, but no luck. Finally, after having this cat rub up against me, begging for attention, I knew I had to find it a good home. I am allergic & could barely touch it. I felt bad, but knew someone could give it the love it needed.
Then L walked into my life. She was just out of foster care, just turned 18 and was finally trying to make a life of her own. She responded to my ad for the lost cat & wanted to give it a good home. L has lots of love to give, so I thought the two would be a great match. Off they went together. At that point, I had no idea what a gift we would be for one another.
L kept reaching out & sending me pics. First she sent me one of her, the cat and a little old lady she helps take care of. L told me that she was trying to get her CNA and was currently helping elderly people at a facility & many of them missed their pets. L was going to use the cat to help the elderly. I LOVED that idea & when I saw the pic, my heart melted. L was doing good things and so was the kitty.
L and I have been corresponding back and forth via text for weeks now. Her story is one of abuse, heart ache, adoption, cruelty, self harm, detention and finally foster care. That last year helped turn her life around by taking her out of a dysfunctional place and giving her hope.
In our conversations I have seen her hope, her big heart, her love of animals and her good will to help people. I also saw her need for connection, her feelings of being alone with no family, her yearning to be loved. So, I invited her over for dinner.
She came over last night & brought her boyfriend. I was honestly not sure what to expect or if it would be awkward. It was a gift to all of us. Both of these young kids, coming from the same small town & having no relationships with their family because of past lives. We all sat around the dinner table talking, sharing stories, connecting and enjoying our differences. They needed love and connection—who doesn’t!! We went on a walk down our forested path, we talked about nature, animals, silly things that made us laugh. L and I heard how similar we are–our love for nature and animals, how we can be misunderstood for our sensitivity, our big hearts, our love for living things (even spiders). We now know we are true kindred spirits. I think we will always be connected in some way. I told L, “I believe there are no coincidences. Kitty brought us together for some reason.” We both just smiled at one another and knew it was true. Getting to know this young girl helped me to once again see how important it is to be in tune to what others may need. We are a gift to one another.
WE ARE A GIFT TO ONE ANOTHER. Is a story, an experience that continues to be told through each one of us. Look at those around you and don’t judge. Just open your hearts and hands to help give them help, understanding, love, kindness, part of yourself.
It is a gift to each and every one of us, if we reach out and grab hold of someone who may need us.
Have a beautiful day. Smile at a stranger. Talk to someone who may look different than you. Listen to a story. Share a moment. You will be better for it. I promise.
Peace to you today. -H
I am always amazed at the fight and fortitude of my sweet daughter. She is currently in the 9th grade and has strived for 100’s her whole life. This was the first year (the year things begin to count for high school) that she was told by a few of her teachers, “You don’t have to get 100, you can still get an A even if it is above 93.”
My daughter is determined. Someone her age told her last year that getting 100 all the time was impossible, so I think that is a little spark that continues to inspire her. She keeps giving and doing and not giving up. She want’s 100. She goes over and beyond and her will to do her best is inspiring to me.
If we all could find that glimmer, that spark to go a little farther, to work a little harder and live to our potential, that would be a gift to us all.
I tell her to find a balance. That she does NOT have to get 100, but there is something inside her that wants to do her best despite everything or anyone else’s opinion. She says, “It’s my will, not pressure. I know I only have to get 93, but there is something in me that wants to go further.”
There is a world full of people, but I do believe there are select few who truly live up to their purpose, their potential. I admire that & will not be the one to stop her from striving to do her best.
HOW COULD WE ALL STRIVE TO GO A LITTLE FURTHER??
I am going to look at SOME of histories greats and see if I can find some good tips, to do lists, success lessons that we can all learn from.
LESSONS from OPRAH
A book that changed her life, “Seat of the Soul” by Gary Zukav.
“In it, [Zukav] talks about how every action is followed by a reaction, which we all know is the third law of motion in physics,” explains Winfrey. “But he also said, before there’s even a thought or an action, there is an intention.
“Something struck me about that,” says Winfrey. “That an intention precedes every thought and every action, and the outcome of your experiences is determined by the intention.”
“THIS PRINCIPLE OF INTENTION IS LITERALLY WHAT SAVED AND CHANGED THE TRAJECTORY OF MY LIVING.”
Lessons for Success:
How do you find your own flow? Here are the four things you need to know to make the right decisions and be successful in work and life, according to Winfrey.
“EVERY DECISION I’VE EVER MADE THAT LED ME TO THE RIGHT SPACE AND PLACE IN MY LIFE, I GOT THERE BECAUSE I RELIED ON THAT INNER VOICE.”
1. What is your inner voice telling you?
“Everybody has what I call this instinct, this inner voice,” says Winfrey at Skidmore. “Every decision I’ve ever made that led me to the right space and place in my life, I got there because I relied on that inner voice.”
2. What is your intention?
3. What are you grateful for?
“I practice being grateful,” says Winfrey, and she knows what you’re thinking. “And a lot of people say, ‘Oh Oprah, that’s easy for you ’cause you got everything!'”
No, says Winfrey: “I got everything because I practiced being grateful.”
4. What is your truth?
In 1998, Winfrey was sued for defamation by a group of cattle ranchers to the tune of $10.3 million for “saying something bad about a burger.” (Google it, she says.)
“Everybody goes through trials — I just happened to be in an actual trial,” says Winfrey. “There’s going to be a trial in your life,” she tells the Skidmore graduates. “It may be disease, it may be jobs, it may be any number of crises that stand outside yourself to try to tell you who you are.
“And it is your job to know the truth” of who you are, says Winfrey. “And let that truth set you free.” https://www.cnbc.com/2017/05/23/oprah-winfrey-these-are-the-4-things-you-need-to-know-for-success.html
LESSONS from LEONARDO DA VINCI:
He was a painter, architect, inventor, and student of all things scientific. He is best known for his art, including the famous, Mona Lisa painting.
He would carry around a notebook where he would write down anything that “moved him.” Buried in one of these books, dating back to around the 1490’s, is a to-do list. Check this out. Here is a sampling: Calculate the measurement of Milan and Suburbs, Get the master of arithmetic to show you how to square a triangle, Examine the Crossbow of Mastro Giannetto, Find a master of hydraulics and get him to tell you how to repair a lock, canal and mill in the Lombard manner, Ask about the measurement of the sun promised me by Maestro Giovanni Francese…(that is not everything) You can just feel Da Vinci’s voracious curiosity and intellectual restlessness. Note how many of the entries are about getting an expert to teach him something, be it mathematics, physics or astronomy. Also who casually lists “draw Milan” as an ambition?
LESSONS from STEPHEN HAWKING:
Stephen Hawking , he is considered one of the most brilliant theoretical physicists since Einstein. He authored a brief history of time, an international best seller, From 1979 to 2009 he was the Lucasian Professor at Cambridge, a position held by Isaac Newton in 1663. Professor Hawking has over a dozen honorary degrees.
Some of his quotes to live by…
Advice he shared with his children: “Look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see, and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious.”- Stephen Hawking
Don’t give up: “The victim should have the right to end his life, if he wants. But I think it would be a great mistake. However bad life may seem, there is always something you can do, and succeed at. While there’s life, there is hope.”
Nothing is perfect: “One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect, Perfection simply doesn’t exist…without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist.”
Matter of attitude: “People won’t have time for you if you are always angry or complaining.”
Matter of purpose: “Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it.”
Matter of perspective: “When one’s expectations are reduced to zero, one really appreciates everything one does have.”
LESSONS from RICHARD BRANSON:
Here is some actual information from some of Richard Branson’s To Do Lists. Branson emphasizes his “love of writing lists” and how it started from a young age. “Lists not only provide great structure for getting things done, but they also help us to set goals and achieve our dreams,” Branson wrote. Way back on a list from 1972 he listed, “Learn to fly, open more Virgin Record Stores, clean up…”
Fast forward 45 years and take a look at where Branson is today. He has a net worth of about $5 billion and is the founder of an organization that houses more than 450 companies. It’s safe to say Branson is doing more than OK. In part, he thanks to-do lists for this.
HIS SUCCESS TIPS:
1. Follow your dreams
You’ll never be successful if you don’t love what you do and wake up every morning excited. “Those people who spend their time working on things they love are usually the ones enjoying life the most,” Branson says. “They are also the ones who dared to take a risk and chase their dreams.”
2. Do some good
According to Branson, “if you aren’t making a positive difference to other people’s lives, then you shouldn’t be in business.” This goes not only for individuals, but companies as a whole, Branson says.
3. Believe in your ideas
If you aren’t advocating for yourself, you’re not giving anyone else a reason to. As Branson says, “If you aren’t proud of your idea and believe in your plans, why should anybody else?”
4. Have fun
Though often underrated, Branson calls fun one of the most important ingredients in any successful business. “If you’re not having fun, then it’s probably time to try something else,” he writes.
The concept of having fun has driven some of Branson’s most successful businesses, especially when he was first starting out. When he went to the CEOs of Virgin Music with the idea of using a third of the company’s profits to start an airline because he believed it would be “fun,” they weren’t entirely on board, Business Insider reports. But Branson persisted and Virgin Atlantic, one of the company’s most well-known properties, was born.
5. Don’t give up
“On every adventure I have been on — whether setting up a business, flying around the world in a balloon or racing across the ocean in a boat — there have been moments when the easy thing to do would be to give up,” Branson writes. But, by sticking things through, he’s propelled himself to immense success, both personal and professional.
Branson’s onto something with this tip. Psychologist and MacArthur “Genius” fellow Angela Duckworth spent years researching achievement, and found that talent by itself is only one factor. Success also requires determined effort, and lots of it.
“Without effort, your talent is nothing more than your unmet potential,” Duckworth writes in her book, “Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance.”
6. Keep setting new challenges
“If you don’t write down your ideas, they could be gone by the morning,” Branson says. He solves this problem himself by making lists of every kind, from ideas for companies to upcoming plans.
“Write down every single idea you have, no matter how big or small,” he wrote in a blog post. And then challenge yourself to follow through. You never know what’s going to hit.
7. Learn to delegate
Learning that you don’t have to do everything yourself is a difficult skill for many entrepreneurs, but it’s worth it. “If you find people who can take on tasks you aren’t good at, it frees you up to plan for the future,” Branson writes.
8. Look after your team
Your personal success matters, but so does the success of your team. Branson points out the importance of fostering a welcoming, safe and innovative work environment: “If your staff are having fun and genuinely care about other people, they will enjoy their work more and do a better job.”
It’s also crucial to hire the right people. “Find people who look for the best in others, praise rather than criticise, and love what they do,” Branson writes.
9. Get out there
Success — and adventure — isn’t going to come to you. You’ve got to go find it. “Rather than sitting in front of a screen all your life, switch off the TV or the computer and go out into the world,” Branson says.
10. When people say bad things about you, prove them wrong
To thrive, you must be prepared for critics and copycats.
“Some people will react to success by trying to hang onto your coat tails,” Branson warns. “The best thing you can do is to not only ignore them, but to prove them wrong in every single way.”
LESSONS from someone who wrote THE MOTIVATION MANIFESTO:
Brendon Burchard survived a horrible car crash & had what seems like a life awakening. He began asking people three questions: DID WE LIVE? DID WE LOVE FULLY? DID WE MAKE A DIFFERENCE and DID WE MATTER? That is all I have to say about that.
After diving into SOME of these greats I have realized how there are SO many more out there, so I may have to do additional blog posts on other people who have overcame, lived with purpose, went beyond and found their own kind of brilliance!! It is so motivating and fun to read life lessons, quotes and inspiration from so many incredible people.
We can all strive to do more with our lives. Love it!!
Peace and love to you today!! -H
I recently have been going to the dentist to take care of some periodontal issues. The serious nature has had me getting intensely drugged and numbed. I left the dentist office two different times looking like I had a stroke (mouth droopy) and my entire mouth numb and left without feeling. Talk about humbling. I could not feel my lips or tell if I was sucking a straw. It was terrible. I felt like Tim Allen…see below..hahaha
Now, seriously. It was humbling and my heart ached for people who suffer from health issues. It made me think of my friend who was pregnant and had a stroke during her pregnancy. She lost mobility and memory. She struggled to find a reason for what had happened to her. She came to the realization that if it was for her child, she could struggle through & then she was thrown into the fire of losing that child. She wondered why. She began to question everything. She fell into a depression. She had not only lost physical mobility, she was now struggling with emotional mobility. She had other children she needed to take care of, so she had to go deep into her emotional reserve and find a place where she could begin to build again.
Today. I hope that many of you out there who do not struggle physically or emotionally will count the many gifts that you take for granted. I know walking out of that dentist office numb made me aware of the many gifts I take for granted. Think about it…A FEW things to get you thinking about the many gifts you are given…
Do you have healthy children? If you need a little more realization on this go watchthe movie, “Miracles from Heaven.” My husband and I balled watching what that family had to go through and endure. It is based on a true story. Just imagine having a sick child & how difficult that would be. Go hug your children and thank the heavens that they are healthy and happy.
Two gifts you opened this morning–your eyes: You have the gift to see. There are many people who don’t take the time to look at the details, to notice the small gifts all around them. Read something. Go outside and look at the symmetry of leaves. Watch the clouds. Enjoy a sunrise or sunset. Notice color.
Do you have abundance? Whether it is fruit available for picking, a grocery store full of a variety of goods, running water, energy, family near, somewhere to live…My sister-in-law just moved to California. They had a house lined up to move into when they arrived, but the day they were to move in, the funding fell through. Luckily they had a trailer to live in while they are trying to work things out. My sister-in-law laughed as she explained their situation, “and I wanted to sell the trailer!” My response, “I bet you are glad you have it right now.” They are living in a trailer, but are abundant with love. They took a day as a family and made it a memory in Disneyland. She joked that they are homeless, but they are in Disneyland and enjoying it. Every situation is different, but if you can find the abundance wherever you are, you will find the gift within the situation.
Do you have love? We all come from love, but sometimes that gets lost in the confusion of life. You may be surrounded by friends and family who love you or you may have a best pet friend or maybe you are constantly searching for love. Do you love yourself? Love can be found in service, caring for another, holding the hand of someone afflicted, listening to someone in need…LOVE is everywhere, it is a gift that may be freely given or you may need to seek and find it. Love is in our nature.
Do you have a healthy body? Many of us take for granted and sometimes abuse the incredible gift we have been given–our body. It is an amazing piece of systematic genius. How are bodies function is a miracle & we do not have to do anything. It runs beautifully. Sometimes it is put on us to take better care of this amazing gift and we need to take it seriously. When we begin to break down, life becomes more difficult. We need to seek out good healthy habits. We need to find exercises we love. We need to sleep, drink water and do good things. Do you appreciate the ability to touch, to hear, to breathe, to taste yummy foods, etc. We need to be grateful for the health and happiness we have.
Do you appreciate being able to learn and grow? We have a great ability to learn anything with the help of the internet, youtube, connecting with others, etc. It is amazing!! We are only limited by what we do NOT do. Learn something new & guaranteed you will find a new zest for your life. You will begin to strive to seek out new things more often to enhance your life. You will learn and want to share with others around you. It is contagious! When we don’t seek out new things, we become stagnate and don’t grow. Take the time. It is worth it. Seek to learn something new each day, even if it is something small. You will fill it boost your day. I promise!
Do you have balance? Mind. Body. Spirit. All come together as a whole.
Well, this is a small list, but a good start. Create your own list of things you are grateful for and begin to to truly live, love and see the things that make your life incredible.
Peace and love to you. -H