I know most people do not like their body. According to an article by glamour magazine that surveyed 300 women of all sizes found…Our research found that, on average, women have 13 negative body thoughts daily—nearly one for every waking hour. And a disturbing number of women confess to having 35, 50 or even 100 hateful thoughts about their own shapes each day.
Psychology Today said, currently, 80 percent of women in the U.S. are dissatisfied with their appearance. And more than 10 million are suffering from eating disorders.
WOW!! that is some serious stuff. Not too surprising, but I still don’t think that most women understand that the majority feel the same way—there is always something we don’t like in the mirror.
MY BODY IMAGE. When I was in High School I was this little thing (under 100 lbs) and even on my wedding day everyone raved about how tiny my waist was. I grew up with people wondering if I had an eating disorder (which I didn’t) but it definitely didn’t help my self-esteem having people accuse me. I had one of my boyfriends mother’s flat out ask me if I had been throwing up in the bathroom after a meal we had just all enjoyed at a restaurant. Talk about embarrassing. No, just a small bladder. I had camp leaders tell me I exercised too much when I went on a hike with a couple girlfriends. Sure, I was small, but I honestly didn’t have an eating disorder.
I truly didn’t even understand eating disorders until I was in college and it seemed all the boxes of cereal we were buying were gone–quick. One of my room mates would binge and purge and she would spend an hour in the shower, my heart sank for her. Then I began to understand a couple of my younger sisters had the same problem. I ached for their emotional emptiness, but I truly did not understand.
My body issues have evolved over having a daughter and gaining 60 lbs, my husband’s porn problem (that mentally & emotionally messes with you), having people say, “Didn’t you use to be a hottie” , a brother telling me that I “use to be skinny like his wife”, my Mom talking about how skinny she was & then telling me “you’ve gained weight”, never feeling comfortable in a swim suit, not liking pictures of myself and no one taking pictures of me….It can mentally mess with you. But, I also haven’t liked having my picture taken. Who does?
BEGIN TO SEE SOMETHING YOU LOVE. Well, I just recently came across some good info. to share with you about body image, taking a good look at yourself in the mirror and finding the little things you do like and allowing those to shine. I just listened to a podcast with Vivienne McMaster, she has a blog called “Be Your Own Beloved.” Don’t you just love that name. It just sings to the soul and you want to know more. She has an amazing story of self-loathing, depression and beginning again each day to try and find something beautiful in nature, your surroundings, yourself. Here is her site http://www.viviennemcmasterphotography.com
BEGIN AGAIN. The funny thing is, I just began to take a couple pictures of myself last week. I always frowned at “selfies” as vain, too me.me. but I am slowly beginning to see that just a little picture of your feet, your hands touching a flower, your face at an angle you like—can lead to little bits of self-love. You can find something you like about yourself, so if you have a hard time looking at yourself in the mirror, begin again. Take a little step, a little snap of your camera phone and find a little piece of yourself that you lost. Hopefully, little by little we will all begin to focus on the truly beautiful things we see—in ourselves.
BEST BEFORE AND AFTER I recently had this video sent to me from my sister–it is great–check it out.
DOVE BEAUTY PATCH If you haven’t seen this video by Dove–Dove Beauty Patch–check it out. So good!!
Here are some final thoughts from celebrities..
.Well, I hope all of this info. will make you take a step in a better direction for yourself. That you may find some little something about you that you can love. When we begin to truly see things we can love—that will spread and that will be a Bea-YOU-tiful thing.
Peace and lots of LOVE to you. -Heather
3 thoughts on “You & Your Body Image”
Body image is such a difficult thing, unfortunately, for so many beautiful girls. I’m much like you, where I only managed to break 100lbs in my first year of high school, I eat like a bird not because I want to be skinny, but because I don’t have a big appetite, and have been told that I don’t need to exercise because I’m so skinny already. I’ve had moments of self-consciousness because of it, but I’ve always been blessed with some resilient self-esteem that I’ve never truly hated my body.
Honestly, I rarely look at my body. I don’t care what clothes I have on, I don’t make my hair fancy, I don’t wear makeup. I more or less ignore my appearance. Perhaps once in a while I’ll stop to appreciate how nice my hair is, or how good a shirt looks, but I feel as if I look best when I’m not looking at myself at all.
What I mean is that I measure my beauty on how happy I am. If I’m laughing my head off with friends, or have just written a powerful chapter, or am having the best day ever, I feel beautiful. And in those moments, I like to catch snatches of my reflection in windows, so I can see how good I look with a smile on my face.
I wish that more people, girls especially, would realize that beauty comes not from preening, or obsessing, or exercising or dieting or any of that. It comes from doing good and being happy. It comes from inside.
God bless 🙂 ❤
Beautifully said, Alex, that is the soul truth 🙂 and that is how we should view our body. Thank you so much for bringing this up and sharing, because that is how happiness and beauty truly shine.
You are a true beauty. Hugs to you. THANK YOU SO much for your wonderful comment.
Thank you dear, hugs to you as well!