My husband and our family have been on a rollercoaster of emotion for about four years now. My husband had been with the same company for about 15+ years when the company decided to sell and he was left without a job.
We stepped on to a rollercoaster (metaphorically) that we were unsure where it would take us. It has been a ride full of surprises, ups and downs, dark corners, highs and lows. It has been hard on all of us. My husband has gone through four job changes in the past four years and it has been a seriously emotional ride. My daughter has been wondering if we are moving, especially since we packed the entire house up a year ago. We still wonder if we are going to have to move to this day. That is a hard way to live. My husband has been on hundreds of “great” interviews, to then hear he made it to the top 3 out of 200 candidates, only to have it go to someone internal. This happened not only once, but numerous times. He took a job that was “easy money” leading a non-profit organization, but the politics that went with the job sucked the life and enjoyment out of the position & he decided he was done. He then kept looking and looking to the point that we literally used up all of our savings, in debt and we were about out of time & would have to sell everything including our home.
Just in the nick of time (literally we had a couple of weeks) a friend reached out & had a lead on a “hard selling” job & my husband took it. This was so out of his comfort zone, but he did it. He did not enjoy it, but he became really good at it. You can be good at something, but that doesn’t mean it feels the void of doing something worthwhile. Where a JOB is just a JOB, a paycheck. He continued in the position for over six months & the company loved him BUT, it was just a “means to an end,” & he did not feel like he was making a true difference or “leading” which is where his heart has always been.
My husband then mentioned going back into the retail world and leading people because he loves that arena. I knew he wasn’t truly happy selling and I wanted more for him. I wanted to support any direction he felt he needed to go. He reached out to a previous retail chain that he had worked for & they literally created a position for him to co-manage the local store. It is a giant, beautiful store with hundreds of employees, but it is a beast!! When my husband ran the same location years before he ended up in the hospital. Yikes!! I honestly have been a little worried. It is a beast with lots of people, lots of expectation, lots of work. My husband has been there for a little over a month & it has been full of ups and downs.
I honestly keep looking upward and asking God, “When do we get to get off this rollercoaster of emotions. This is tough.” I keep praying things will get better.
This morning as my husband was leaving to work, I was half asleep, but I remembered something I read recently and mentioned it to him. With a huge amount of HOPE in my heart, I said, “I read something that may help you today…be SUPERMAN. Find someone you can save today. Find someone you can lift with a smile, a kind word, a compliment. FIND SOMEONE YOU CAN SAVE!! He said, “That is a great idea. I will”
I think anyone in any situation, good or BAD can begin to change their perception of their own reality by changing the situation for someone else. My husband has truly been a “godsend” to this store. The people have been so happy to have him back in the store, to enjoy the light he has to offer. He knows people just need to be watered & he is really good at that. I think the superman idea was a reminder that he is making a difference every day in the lives of those all around him. He just needs to get outside of himself and find ways to help them.
We all can do that in our own lives. Whether you just say hello to a stranger, ask how someone is doing, send a happy message to a friend, pick flowers & take them to someone who is alone, smile at someone who could use your light…find someone to save. I love that!!
Have a SUPER day. -H