Do you know anyone in your life that every time you talk to them they are sharing the same stories?? My brother was over a couple of weeks ago & began telling his side of a fight with his wife. I had heard this same story over and over & was not about to listen to him and the energy he was carrying. I got up from the table & told him to be aware of the energy he is carrying. You can imagine he was a bit offended & shared with me a few explicit words. I know that sounds a bit heavy, but I was tired of hearing the victim, the “stories”, the same issues that continue to recur. Over 15+ years I have had countless conversations, heart felt moments, family meetings with him & I think at that moment, I was done. I invited he and my Mom (who was part of the conversation) to go outside & sit on the patio to continue their discussion, to go downstairs into my mothers apt, anywhere. I just wanted his energy away from me.
There is definitely an energy that people carry & often times the stories we tell ourselves and others, is like a heavy bag filled with negative energy that we carry around. When someone gets offended, hurt, in a fight with someone, they begin to pull out items from their bag, items that are from the past, items that they need to hold onto to feel solidified or justified in the “story” they share or tell others & even themselves.
What would your storybook be like?
Would it be a heavy story filled with others constantly hurting, past hurts that need forgiving, lies you have told yourself, not finding the love you need, continuing to surround yourself with people that don’t lift or build, self-loathing, self-limiting, lots of villains??
OR Would your storybook be a story of overcoming obstacles, moments that may have been hard, but you came out stronger, you learned, you continue to grow, you seek higher places, people who lift you…
I want you to truly look at the stories you tell people—is it always gossip? What kind of energy does it hold? Do you feel good when you are telling others about yourself, do you feel drained by friends and family, do you feel good about where you are, or do you need to go a little deeper to work on the story that is your life.
Look at the different chapters of your life–do you focus on the negative, hard moments or have you been able to see them as learning and growing moments.
Are there things you would do differently–let them go, be gentle with yourself, begin to see those things differently within your mind. Let go of regret, let go of missed opportunities—it is all in the past.
From this moment on you can think of things you would like in your life—write those dreams down and begin to take a small step towards having those things in your life. Don’t ever give up on possibility.
Write. Journal. Doodle. Create images of the story of your life…see if you notice a pattern, the same stories that play in your mind, things that make you smile, moments that you love, the little things that make your story yours. Work on going forward in your life and not getting stuck with a big bag of “victim” on your back.