JOY over FEAR

I am doing my best to embrace the little things I am noticing around the world and in my own backyard. There are many fears at the moment, but my state is brimming with the virus & woke up to a 5.7 earthquake yesterday! Talk about FEAR!! I have never experienced an earthquake, so it was definitely scary and the fear set in as my little family loaded our car with essentials (just in case) & then sat around our large table for hours, so we could hide under it we needed to. The fear was real, BUT, with anything life gives, it is what we do with the moments that truly help us grow.  As the day went on I smiled as I noticed a calm reporter sharing earthquake stats. I looked at my daughter, pointed at the television and said, “That reporter was in our front yard about ten years ago covering a story about a huge flooding situation that was going on next to our home. The mountain was flooding, so the city decided to divert the waters down the middle of our neighborhood street into a nearby canal that was next to our home. It was a crazy situation.” I continued to explain to my daughter how there will always be things that happen in life, but what you learn from them will help your life. You learn you can get through tough and scary things. So much of how we react is what we take from any situation.

We need LIGHT. JOY. HOPE.

So, this morning I came across this great article that spreads hope, light and helps take away the fear that has spread across the globe. Read, watch and enjoy this little bit of JOY that definitely overcomes the FEAR across the globe. It is a fun montage of people singing from rooftops across the globe and ends with a great video of everyone clapping to thank hospitals and health workers. It is a feel-good…a good JOY!

https://www.commondreams.org/news/2020/03/16/kind-triumph-spirit-locked-down-italians-singing-balconies-inspire-hope-across-world

Do what you can in your neighborhood.  Put out a positive sign of hope in your yard. Make cookies and secretly leave them on porches. Leave notes of wellness. Leave boxes of chalk for neighbor kids to draw on their driveways. Smile. Ask neighbors if they need anything & drop it at their door with a kind note. The little things will make a big difference.

Focus on the good things I have noticed around my neighborhood… I have seen more than ever, families playing outside together. I have seen Dad’s with their kids and more kids outside than I have ever seen. This is healing time. This is together time. This is what we need to notice. We need to find the moments of JOY that linger…the stories that touch our hearts, the hope that can be amplified by spreading good things, the smiles we share as we walk past others. We can be safe, but also good-spirited. We need to allow LOVE to flow over FEAR.

Find the JOYS A few JOYS–my daughter works at the local aquarium, but it has obviously been closed, so the employees have been doing different things to enjoy their time in an empty aquarium. All the employees were gathering together & doing live presentations at the animal exhibits and posting them online. They were all cheering each other on during the presentations. One of my daughter’s co-workers made a video of herself singing in the shark gallery & sent it to her. Another friend of hers had guy realize life is too short & wanted to ask her on a date. My husband has had multiple people at his work donate their paid time off to give to other workers who need the coverage.

This is what we need to see. This is where we need to focus—-to find the little JOYS.

Peace, Love and Light to all.  -H

365 New things to Learn

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“The Constant Happiness is Curiosity.”  -Alice Munro

 

MORE GOOD STUFF TO BE CURIOUS ABOUT…ENJOY

 

GOOD SNACKS     For energy: 2013 study, subjects reported a 38% decline in fatigue and a 31% increase in energy after eating 2 gold kiwis.  For Stress: the journal of the American College of Nutrition says nibbling on a handful of walnuts may help you keep your cool during anxiety inducing situations.   For Focus: drink a blueberry smoothie because it increases oxygen flow to the brain.   For Happiness: edamame might help beat the blues, thanks to the B vitamin folate.

 

SOME GREAT QUESTIONS: Do I examine my life enough?  Do I care too much about what people think?  What do I really want to do all day?  How do I want to be remembered?  Do I say YES enough?  Do I know how to say no?  What am I afraid of?  Am I strong enough?   Is there anyone I need to forgive?  Why are we here?  What do I know for sure?  Have I found purpose?  Who do you want to be?  What is working?

 

SOMETHING COOL: a BOOK, List of Note (Scribblings from famous people)  or a LINK, dailyoverview.nyc (satellite photos from the world)

 

SHH. SELF-ESTEEM BOOSTER: This one will surprise you. Do something—anything—and keep it a secret. Today, do something alone—just for you, by yourself—in the middle of nowhere, in a hidden place or out in the world, with no one else around. You can make art, do a performance or an action, dance, or make a site specific installation. Or you can scribble an unspeakable dream on a piece of paper and tuck it somewhere no one will ever find it. Or you can jot down a note and burn it or you can walk a labyrinth. Honor your secret moment, whatever it looks like. Let it percolate. Don’t tell your spouse or best friend about it. Don’t tell your parents or children. Don’t tweet. instagram. Facebook it or blog about it—ever. Just be alone with it. Feel it. It is yours. -From The Little Spark: 30 ways to ignite your creativity by Carrie Bloomston (O Aug 2015)

 

WHAT GIVES YOU JOY? “Joy is about relaxing into a realm where you aren’t controlling anything”  -Sarah Gundle, clinical psychologist          To find out what brings you Joy, ask yourself: Is this activity just for me? Does it yield external results or internal harmony? Whether its taking nature walks or listening to music Gundle says, make time to accomplish absolutely nothing.   (O Aug 2015)

 

SIGHT-SAVERS: Kids should go outside to play. 2 studies show spending time outside can help protect your kids vision. The journal of Opthalmology, kids who spent their recess outdoors were significantly less likely to need glasses the next year than those who were indoors. A Danish study found that exposure to daylight slowed changes in the eye that can lead to nearsightedness.  -(BH&G)

 

TUNE UP YOUR BRAIN: Feeling sluggish this morning? Cue up an upbeat song. In a study from Britains Northumbria University, people were more alert and finished tasks more quickly when they listened to a fast-paced concerto than a slower melody or silence.  (BH&G)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lessons learned from the movie JOY

JOY is a movie about hope, dreams, creating, and finding oneself. Joy is a great movie that is based on the true story of Joy Mangano, a self-made millionaire who created her own business empire.

I would highly recommend you see it if you haven’t yet. Enjoy these life lessons that I took from the movie.

tumblr_inline_nzyfonSbdB1qb6g44_540Always DREAM: Joy: What happened to us? What happened to all the things that we used to dream about for our lives? I just feel like it’s getting further and further away.     You can see and feel Joy wondering what happened to the little girl who always would create and tell beautiful stories. She was worried that she was loosing that part of herself.      I think we all have moments like this, where we wonder what happened to our dreams, how we lost track of time and how we were going to get back on the path to following our dreams. They are just baby steps away. You can take one little step each day to learn something new, to talk to someone who is living your dream, to begin preparing to leave your job, to take small steps in the directions of your dreams. [Old or New dreams]. Just begin.

 

01-jennifer-lawrence-as-joyJust Do It! Create: Joy: In America everyday people make of what they will of themselves. I’m going to do something.     This makes me want to share tiny stories about big companies that started small. Melissa & Doug toys began with one toy 25 years ago & they sold it out of their station wagon. Nike also began out of the trunk of Phil Knight’s Plymouth Valiant. Amazon, Apple, Google, Microsoft, Disney, Mattel–all began in garages.     We are all creators. It is just a matter of finding what inspires, motivates and lights you up.

 

joy-movie-reviewDon’t let the Naysayers in:  Mimi: [to Joy] You don’t exactly have your whole life ahead of you, but you still have a good portion of it. Peggy: Joy has never run a business. Rudy: It’s a big mistake. It’s my fault. I gave her the confidence to think she was more than an unemployed housewife. Peggy: It’s a fantasy!          Joy had to push beyond her limiting family and the beliefs they had. Joy was determined to rise above.       We each have people like that in our own lives. People who may belittle our dreams, who may naysay our ideas. Rise above it and begin to believe in the possibilities.  Remember: there is a positive and negative energy in everything. Do not surround yourself with those that are heavy, who can’t see the vision, who do not lift you and your ideas up. They will weigh you down in the end.

 

2A8E895500000578-3162558-image-m-40_1436976178504Believe in Yourself! If you don’t, who will?  Joy: I have real ambitions and real ideas.    Tony: What if they don’t see you?  Joy: They’re gonna see me no matter what.      Joy had quite a few obstacles that she had to handle and in the end it was her pure determination that got her through.         Each one of us will have walls that we hit within our lives and we have to figure out how to hurdle over them. Whether they are personal insecurities, having to learn something new for a job, changing jobs, creating a space to pursue a dream or just pushing forward when life gets tough. If you don’t believe you can–find a way. If you can find pure will, there will be a way. Believe.

 

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Use any motivation possible to propel yourself forward: Even if it is your negative family. Joy:  I don’t want to end up like my family. I have to do things myself, once and for all.          It is safe to say that Joy was stuck in many ways. She was feeling like her back was up against a wall and all she could do was go for it. She found determination in that.

 

joy-101Bradley-JL-RudysCC_rgb.0Trust those people who have your back: In the end, Joy was betrayed by many she loved, but she also learned who would always have her back.          We have people who come and go within our lives, but hold tight to those who will be loyal no matter what. They are the true gems that will be worth the most in your life.

 

landscape-1436967071-screen-shot-2015-07-15-at-92838-amBe yourself! Even if it scares you. [backstage at QVC Joy is dolled up and given a poofy black early ‘90s style dress]
Neil Walker: Wow. Beautiful. What do you think? How do you feel?
Joy: I’d like to change just one thing, do you mind?
Neil Walker: Okay, surprise me.
Joy: Small thing. I’ll surprise you.
Neil Walker: Okay, surprise me.
[she goes back into the dressing room and closes the door, Neil paces impatiently]
Neil Walker: I wonder what the small thing is that she changes.
[Joy comes out of the dressing room wearing her hair down and she’s wearing a shirt and trousers]
Neil Walker: What? You undid the whole thing.
Joy: This is me.
Neil Walker: This is you? You’ve got the exact same outfit you had when you came in here.
Joy: I wear a blouse and I wear pants. That’s who I am. I want to go on as me.

Joy believed in herself and her product. She was determined to do it her way and did just that. She broke through the fear and found her wings.

 

landscape-1451924720-joy-movieThe Real JOY

 

Ways to Fall in LOVE with your Life

SimpleWomanonRugIn the true spirit of the month of LOVE, I thought it would be a good idea to not only fall in LOVE with relationships, but with the life we are living at this moment. Here are some thoughts on falling in love with the life you have.

See the BEAUTY all around you–“A person should hear a little music, read a little poetry and see a fine picture everyday in order that worldly cares may not obliterate the sense of the beautiful which God has implanted in the human soul.”  -Johann Von Goethe

Be still. Get QUIET–“We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature-trees, flowers, grass-grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence…we need silence to be able to touch souls.”  -Mother Teresa

Do a little SOUL searching“Anytime we catch a glimpse of soul, beauty is there; anytime we catch our breath and feel “how beautiful!” The soul is present.” -Jean Shinoda Boten, MD

Find a little JOY–“Always leave enough room in your life to do something that makes you happy, satisfied or even JOYOUS.” -Paul Hawken

Find COMFORT in knowing you are not alone–“Ever now and again take a good look at something not made with hands–a mountain, a star, the turn of a stream. There will come to you wisdom and patience and solace and above all, the assurance that you are not alone in the world.” -Sidney Lovett

BELIEVE in the GIFT of every day–“Life is a great and wondrous mystery and the only thing we know that we have for sure is what is right here, right now. Don’t miss it.” -Leo Buscaglia

Believe that your LIFE is SACRED–“We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.” -Thornton Wilder

Blessed be the month of LOVE and the life you live be a beautiful reminder of the gifts you receive daily.  -Heather