LIVE each day!

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Just last week we visited my husband’s fathers grave. He has been dead for twenty years. Wow, how time goes by so quickly. I looked around the cemetery and walked by many headstones covered with flowers, rocks doodles with sharpie pens, a family having a picnic, balloons, flags, stuffed animals…it was a beautiful sight to see so many flowers in one place, but also very humbling to be among so many living that were still trying to hold onto a piece of a loved one lost.

This past week as I passed cemetery after cemetery looking at all the adorned burial places, it made me think of a great thought from Og Mandino’s book, The Greatest Salesman in the World.

The scroll marked 5… LIVE EACH DAY AS IF IT IS YOUR LAST

There was a particular part  of this scroll that made me think of all those who have passed & even more grateful for today. “This day is all I have and these hours are now my eternityI greet this sunrise with cries of joy as a prisoner who is reprieved from death. I lift mine arms with thanks for this priceless gift of a new day. So too, I will beat upon my heart with gratitude as I consider all who greeted yesterday’s sunrise who are no longer with the living today.

It made me think of those who are not here any longer, who cannot greet a new day with gratitude, who cannot sit and enjoy a sunset, a child’s smile, a sip of the fresh, spring air. It makes me think of so many tiny things we take for granted each day. I only hope and pray that as I look at the stars tonight, gratitude will fill my heart, that I will sleep knowing that appreciation sang from my soul.

-Peace to you today. Thankful for this beautiful gift of a day.  -H

What do we take for granted…

This is a big question & one that only YOU can answer. I know for me, I definitely take for granted that I was blessed to be given a daughter to hold, raise and love. I take for granted the little things that I daily am able to do like walk, see, hear, taste yummy foods, hold my husband’s hand. I take for granted that my parents are still alive and that they are still together after 40+ years of marriage. I take for granted the freedoms of where I live. I take for granted that I can read. I take for granted that I can freely learn anything I want. I take for granted that I can speak clearly & share my thoughts and ideas. I take for granted creativity, time, talents…There are many things that I take for granted at different times. I think we all do, but I have had a couple of experiences recently that have made me see a little more clearly.

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This past school year I have been volunteering & helping with the schools “service club.” We offer this little club to kids who need a place to go, who want to do little projects for needy children in other countries. It’s been a wonderful experience. The woman who heads up the club was a great example to me of selflessness. At the beginning of the year she was going through her own personal crisis–her husband was in need of a kidney transplant. It was an emotional roller coaster each week watching her deal with her husband put on dialysis, trouble with doctors, having moments of hope that a sister was a good match & then learning she wasn’t emotionally the right match…on and on. She continued to come to our little service club despite everything going on at home. What I have not mentioned is that she also has physical challenges. She walks with a cane and hobbles in pain everywhere she goes. Her hip is displaced leaving one foot higher than the other, so she has to buy $50 shoes that help her walk.

I have watched this woman all year handle all these personal struggles with a positive attitude, a can do personality, a sheer determination to make it all work. Luckily, her husband  in the last couple months did have a family member who was a good match & the transplant was successful. yay!

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For me, a big life lesson. We had been planning an end of the year service club party that we planned to do at a nearby pavilion at the school. The pavilion was probably 50 feet from the parking lot. The week before the party she hobbled in to service club & looked at me. “I think we are going to have to do a different location for the party. It is just too far for me to walk.”

Later that same day I walked the path from my home, passed the pavilion [the one we had talked about] and kept walking. I thought long and hard & looked to the heavens and said, “thank you for the gift of being able to walk.”  I can’t even imagine being bed-ridden, being imprisoned in a body that can’t function how it is meant to. It was a huge lesson in taking something for granted.

This made me think of the following video. This past weekend my daughter had a friend over & this song was one of her favorites. She shared it with us & then we almost all cried when we read one of the comments below the video…When i hear this song.. i remember my whole family who died in a road accident 4 months ago ! RIP Mom,Dad & my bro ! I’m left alone here and i can’t find the way to live ::::””((((

We all sat silent thinking about how hard that would be. Needless to say, it gave us a greater appreciation that we have our families still with us. I think there are moments where we all take that for granted.

Watch this beautiful video. This guy’s fiancé was in a terrible accident that left her with brain damage & he has stayed with her trying to get her to a better place. What a journey of selfless love. Beautiful.

I hope and pray that you will think about the little and big things you may take for granted in your life & hold a space of appreciation and love.  Peace to you.  -H

Have faith beyond yourself

“You start to live when you commit your life to a cause higher than yourself. You must learn to depend on divine power for the fulfillment of a higher calling.”  -Lailah GiftyAkita

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I wanted to share a divine, personal experience that I recently had. In order for us to believe we are not alone, we are doing divine work, we are guided by something bigger than our small selves, we must have testimony of it. We must experience moments that we can share with others, which will enhance a larger faith in something bigger and beyond ourselves.

It was probably a couple months ago–I was in a deep sleep and just before I woke I saw a vision, a picture popped into my head of my art displayed in some type of museum. It looked like a children’s museum. I woke up energized by such an idea. I have had children’s books whirling in my creation for years & over the last year I had created some art that was to help connect parents with their children. I just finished the book within the last few months & the thought of trying to get it out into the world was very overwhelming.

A couple years ago I did the children’s book venture—went to a few workshops, some writer conferences, took classes, turned in a few manuscripts, but my work didn’t go anywhere. Honestly, I could have tried harder, but it wasn’t quite right.

LBCloudBBearSo, with this last book that I just finished a couple months ago, I had a different feeling. I wanted it to soar into the world, to touch families with its interactive activities. I loved the whole concept & was almost dreading trying to figure out how to get it into the publishing world when VOILA!! A beautiful gift, a magic, a mystery, a vision literally was given to me. I had NEVER thought of this type of direction—an interactive display at a children’s museum. I was lit up!! I sat up in my bed and the ideas began to whirl. I grabbed my phone and began to write them in my notes. I was so excited. I loved the idea. I looked up to the heavens and said, Thank you.

The next few days I contacted a few children’s museums across the county and asked everyone where I would begin to get an idea into a museum. I had many wonderful people send me their thoughts– I heard big costs to put exhibits together (literally $500,000-millions), people inviting me to museum conferences, sharing links and ideas from other museums, and the director of one of my local museums suggested going to local libraries and doing a test idea. I was so grateful for the giving hearts and attitudes of people across the country.


LBCloudBPage11I was still not sure where to begin, so I thought I would start at a local library & see if my ideas would fly. I wanted to have interactive stations (about 10) that showcased my art and interactive reading and activities that parents and children could do together. i.e.: an image of giraffes that spots were covered in things to be grateful for. The parents would then sit down with their child & create their own paper giraffe & fill it with spots of personal things they were grateful for.

I had a variety of ideas that I took to the library. I arranged a meeting with a sweet children’s librarian to share my thoughts and ideas. She was so great to work with. She expressed that she loved my ideas and my art so much that she wanted to put it on permanent display. Wow! I was humbled at the thought and grateful that she saw the potential of the concept. I was honored that she wanted my art to be hung for all to enjoy, but I was a little worried that the full idea would not be utilized or explored. I didn’t think she would have the time or patience to do the activities, so I have been a bit hesitant.

After a great first run, I thought, why not!! Why not just send my ideas to the local children’s museum and see what happens. Why NOT!! So, I created a professional look book with all my ideas, thoughts, visions and sent it off with a prayer in my heart & lots of prayers out loud while driving. smile. smile. I don’t know what I was thinking–I sent it the week of Spring Break. I knew a children’s museum over spring break would be busy, so I knew I would need to be patient. I patiently waited.

A couple days ago I received an email from my local museum that was wonderful!! The director and her director of Interactive exhibits had looked at my ideas and they wanted to offer me an opportunity to be mentored by the Director of Interactive Exhibits. He is suppose to be one of the best in the West!! My heart jumped and I was elated!! What an opportunity!

I walked out on my deck, looked at the sky and said, Thank you for opening this door of opportunity. Please help it to be a great door that will help me get these ideas out into the world to help families. Please help me to continually be an instrument in thy hands.

It was very humbling to know—we are not alone. We have ideas, visions, creations, that are sparks, little divine gifts that truly can light up the world. We are given these sparks & if we miss them or dismiss them–they are gone. But, if we believe and see the potential and see the gift, then we will be given greater direction and even more doors of possibility will be opened.

This whole experience has been a true testament to me—to have faith beyond myself. To look for little miracles, to believe in the doors of possibility. To have faith in that!

I hope you can find the faith to believe in something beyond yourself and to know anything is possible.

Peace to you.  -H

BEAUTIFUL YOU. Tips from Audrey Hepburn

In keeping with this weeks previous post, I am posting a few quotes from one of my favorites…Audrey. She has some great life lessons that are always a beautiful thing. I LOVE Audrey. If you do not know her story–I will post a little of it here, but it has also been made into a movie starring Jennifer Love Hewitt. It is a movie that illustrates Audrey’s real life story and gives you a better sense of where this beautiful, strong woman truly came from. Great story. Great lady.

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A little summary of Audrey’s life— taken from http://www.audry1.org

Biography Introduction

Audrey Hepburn (4 May 1929 – 20 January 1993) was an iconic Academy Award-winning actress, fashion model and humanitarian.Born Audrey Kathleen Ruston in Brussels, Belgium, she was the only child of John Victor Hepburn-Ruston, an Anglo Irish banker, and Baroness Ella van Heemstra, a Dutch aristocrat descended from French and English kings. Her father later appended the name Hepburn to his surname, and Audrey’s surname became Hepburn-Ruston. She had two half-brothers, Alexander and Ian Quarles van Ufford, by her mother’s first marriage to a Dutch nobleman.

Audrey had the reputation of being a humble, kind and charming person, who lived the philosophy of putting others before herself. She showed this side particularly towards the end of her life in her work for the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF). New Woman magazine called Audrey the most beautiful woman of all time, in a 2006 poll. She was ranked as the third greatest female star of all time by the American Film Institute.

Life During World War II

Audrey attended private schools in England and the Netherlands. Her mother was very strict and her father left the family when Audrey was young. She later called his abandonment the most traumatic moment of her life (years later she located her father and sent him money and wrote him many letters). After the 1935 divorce of her parents, she was living with her mother at Arnhem, Netherlands when the German invasion and occupation of World War II occurred. At that time she adopted the pseudonym Edda Van Heemstra, modifying her mother’s documents to do so, because an “English-sounding” name was considered dangerous. This was never her legal name and this lead to a lot of confusion regarding Audrey’s name and many biographies incorrectly state her birth name as Edda.

After the landing of the Allied Forces on D-Day, things grew worse under the German occupiers. During the Dutch famine over the winter of 1944, brutality increased and the Nazis confiscated the Dutch people’s limited food and fuel supply for themselves. Without heat in their homes, or food to eat, people in the Netherlands starved and froze to death in the streets, particularly so in Arnhem, which was devastated during allied bombing raids that were part of Operation Market Garden. Suffering from malnutrition, Audrey developed several health problems. She would stay in bed and read to take her mind off the hunger, and she danced ballet for groups of people to collect money for the underground movement. She resorted to digging up and eating tulip bulbs to survive the famine. The impact of these times would shape her life and values.

Rise to Stardom

After the war, Audrey and her mother moved to London, where she studied ballet, worked as a model, and in 1951, began acting in films, mostly in minor or supporting roles as Audrey Hepburn. She got into acting mainly to make money so that her mother would not have to work menial jobs to support them. Her first major performance was in the 1951 film The Secret People, in which she played a ballet dancer. Audrey had trained in ballet since childhood and won critical acclaim for her talent, which she showcased in the film. However, her ballet teachers had deemed her “too tall” to be a professional ballet dancer, since, at 5’7″, she was taller than many of the male dancers. She was chosen to play the lead character in the Broadway play Gigi that opened on 24 November 1951. She won a Theatre World Award for her debut performance, and it had a successful six-month run in New York City.

Audrey was then offered a starring role opposite Gregory Peck in the Hollywood motion picture, Roman Holiday. Peck saw her star quality and insisted she share top billing. For her performance, she won the 1953 Academy Award for Best Actress. Years later, when asked by Barbara Walters what her favorite film was, Audrey answered without hesitation, Roman Holiday, because it was the one that made her a star.

After Roman Holiday she filmed Sabrina with Humphrey Bogart and William Holden, with whom she had a brief romance. Many believe Holden considered Audrey to be the love of his life, and she would go on to appear with him again in the comedy Paris, When It Sizzles.

Having become one of Hollywood’s most popular box-office attractions, Audrey co-starred with other major actors such as Fred Astaire in Funny Face, Humphrey Bogart and Gary Cooper in Love in the Afternoon, George Peppard in Breakfast at Tiffany’s, Cary Grant in the critically acclaimed hit Charade, Rex Harrison in My Fair Lady, Peter O’Toole in How to Steal a Million, and Sean Connery in Robin and Marian.

Many of these leading men became very close to her. Rex Harrison called Audrey his favorite leading lady; Cary Grant loved to humor her and once said, “all I want for Christmas is to make another movie with Audrey Hepburn;” and Gregory Peck became a lifelong friend. After her death, Peck went on camera and tearfully recited her favorite poem, “Unending Love.” Some believe Bogart and Audrey did not get along, but this is untrue.

Work for UNICEF

Soon after Audrey’s final film role, she was appointed a special ambassador to the United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF). Grateful for her own good fortune after being a victim of the Nazi occupation as a child, she dedicated the remainder of her life to helping impoverished children in the world’s poorest nations.

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Well, that is a taste of Audrey’s life, but I would suggest reading a biography or watching the movie that gives you a better overall sense. She was a wonderful, loving woman. Bless you Audrey.

Have a beautiful day!! -H

Wow! is all I can say–Things I learned from Gregg Braden

Wow, I am sorry it has been so long since my last post. I caught some awful viral cold that took me down and I am still having a hard time getting up. At these moments when you feel so ill you are gently reminded how grateful you are when you feel healthy and strong. I think you are also humbled at how truly small you are in the grand picture of things. Wow!!

While I have been down I watched a great interview with Gregg Braden and was so inspired, blown away, mind expanded, awaken, challenged…and on and on in so many directions. I LOVE to learn & so when I hear great interviews like this, I have to share all I can. I hope you walk away from some of this great info. feeling the same way—challenged and inspired.

gregg-bradenScreen-Shot-2014-05-20-at-1.56.27-PMIn Search of ‘The Net of Indra or The Field of God of The One… 1800’s late–Scientists argued whether or not there was a field of energy. Those who believe called it the Ether field.
There was a Famous experiment in 1887, The Michaelson Morley experiment –the results suggested there was no “ether wind” so from 1887-1986 scientists got it wrong because of the perceptions from the experiment.
In 1987 the experiment was repeated under the offices of the US Air Force. The results were published in a nature journal under the title “special relativity”–a scientist named Silvertooth reenacted the Michelson Morley experiment with better equipment and the field was detected exactly as Michaelson and morely thought it would.
For over 100 years scientists believed everything is separate and then if something did occur that seemed connected–it was coincidence.
For 100 years now scientists have been looking for unified field theory– it has been elusive to many of the greatest minds in the world. One theory is the missing piece is consciousness. They are constantly looking for the smallest particle and trying to reach the greatest edge of the universe, but still have never reached either. John Wheeler suggested, we are participants in ongoing creation, which implies we may never find either. John Wheeler also found that the particles were influenced by human observation, so if the particles were being observed by someone they were different and danced and moved differently when they were observed and influenced by someone watching them. Gregg Braden loved these concepts because he feels it suggests that we are all artists creating our own canvas of life. We are the canvas, we are the art, we are the artists creating as we go in our thoughts and feelings, emotion, beliefs, expectations, dreams, desires… are the language that allows us to influence these particles, these quantum particles, the stuff of the universe, that makes life what it is.     The field that was proven in 1987 has three roles–Number one, the container that holds everything, nothing exists outside of the field. Number two, it’s the bridge between our inner experiences and the canvas of the world. Number three, the field is a mirror that shows us what we have claimed to be true through our thoughts feelings emotions beliefs etc. We can learn to look at it like a feedback mechanism of our greatest desires in our greatest fears and learn from them.
Scientists are still in search of validating this field.


blueheartInteresting twin photon experiment: scientists took one photon split it into two so it would be the exact same particle. They then separated the particles by 14 miles– 7 miles in one direction and seven in the other. The particles reacted the exact same way as if they were one. So even though they were physically separate they acted energetically as one. An example– they spun one of the particles magnetically at the exact precise same exact time the other one did the exact same thing. They call that quantum entanglement of the particles are entangled with each other even though they are physically separate.


hologram_hotstamping1Gregg then talked about The holographic principle–holograms and how we are supposed to be living in a hologram universe. Which means, that the smallest part mirrors the whole. An example of a hologram– bookmark that if you were cut it all up in to little, teeny pieces and then if you cut the smallest piece again, if it was a true hologram, you hold that piece in your hand and see the entire book mark as a whole. He suggested if you were to make a little tiny mark on those tiny, little pieces of the hologram, that little mark would then be on every other little piece.
He mentioned how this is very powerful with things like prayer, because the prayer is already with those you loved you just have to bring it about through your heart and concentrate on what you’re trying to say and share. Many people get too caught up in their concern of how they’re going to get there prayer to a loved one lets say in Afghanistan. Greg is suggesting the prayer is already there with them, you just have to almost awaken it. Heartbased experience.

Gregg-Braden-Images_photo_mediumGregg shared that after spending time with monks and shamans and many different spiritual indigenous people, he came to the conclusion of one theme–they do not communicate with this world through their minds, they communicate through their hearts. And to get into their hearts they share what is called The longest journey in the world…The 17 inch journey from the center of your mind to the center of our heart. They spent so much time learning how to get out of their minds and into their hearts.

braden-theworldwesee1Scientists just recently began to realize how this is important and what we know is this: in addition to the quantum field that connects everything and allows holograph and entanglement. There are other fields as well like the magnetic field of the earth and the magnetic field of the body. Even though we’ve been taught that the brain is the (master organ in the body) because it is the largest & creates the strongest electrical & most  magnetic fields in the body. The brain is amazing, but the master Organ is actually the heart. The heart forms in our body long before the brain does. The instructions are really coming from her heart. The heart is now scientifically acknowledged to be the strongest magnetic field generator in the body, as well as The strongest electrical field generator in the body–60x stronger than brain. About 5,000x stronger than the brain magnetically.

heavenParticles that are once joined and then separated physically remain connected energetically. [Wow hearing this one more time like this made me think of being connected to our creator and even though were physically separated–we are always divinely connected. What a beautiful thing]

heart-mosaicThat is why the language of the heart is so important.

Gregg Braden shared his stories of traveling to Tibet and living there for almost a month and visiting over 12 monasteries and nunneries. He was in a conversation with an Abbot of one of the monasteries. He asked the Abbot a question and waited for his response — what is the stuff that holds everything together the force that holds everything together—The response was “compassion”. Gregg was so surprised that he  thought it was a mistranslation, so he asked him again, the answer, again compassion.
The abbot said compassion is the experiences in our bodies and it is the force that holds everything in the universe together.
Gregg thought it was beautiful that this man sitting 17,000 above sea level, in a cold wet monastery, sitting on a stone slab could have such an answer. Gregg was enlightened to understand what key these people have been able to hold onto for thousands of years.

quantum-entanglement13 experiments of entanglement: done in the late 1990’s.
The first experiment: was performed by the Russian Academy of Sciences: they took a jar of photons the stuff that Atoms are made of. They measured them to see where they were in the jar and the results were not surprised they were completely random. They then did a very innovative move– they took some human DNA and placed it into the container. They wanted to see the effect. Well conventional wisdom said there shouldn’t be everything is separate, so why would DNA affect the photon?? However that’s not what the experiment showed. The experiment showed that the photons were actually influenced by the human DNA they began to line up around the human DNA.

The second experiment: Greg has a personal involvement in this experiment– right after 9/11 he was outside of the country in Australia. The first week he was back he was scheduled to do a conference and speak on these types of relationships in a conference in Los Angeles. Because of 9/11 no one showed up at the conference except the presenters. The presenters chose to present to themselves. He then shared the following experiment with the presenters: the US Army it’s amazing work in the late 1990s. They took DNA from a volunteer they swabbed their mouth to get white blood cells and then placed this living DNA into a device that can measure the DNA and how it responded to its environment. If the DNA in a container in one room and the volunteer in a different room, but quantum entanglement tells us they are still connected. They then showed the volunteer different videos to elicit emotion(ie humorous, war films). They saw the DNA respond exactly like the volunteer. Gregg shared this experiment with the presenters of the conference. Later that night at dinner a man came up to Gregg Braden and said I am the one who came up with that scientific experiment you just reported on. He was Dr. Cleve Baxter and he had designed the experiment for the army. Dr. Baxter said the army stopped at the DNA in one room and the volunteer in another but the scientists didn’t stop, they continued the experiment and took the DNA to Los Angeles and had the volunteer in Arizona. They used atomic clocks and found the same response was instantaneous between the DNA and the volunteer.

The third experiment was done at the Institute of Heartmath: they took a pure form of DNA & isolated the DNA and ask people who were trained in heart based experiences of what we would consider positive and negative emotions–positive emotions relaxed the DNA and elongated it, emotions were able to be expressed more fully. Negative emotions compressed and contracted the DNA, so it was unable to express fully.  This is the first time the scientists were actually able to document that human emotions can shape DNA

380709160c04b58c3128278cf4177b3778970But what we do know is this… every moment of every day we are having a conversation between our heart and our brain. Depending on those conversations prior to sending signals to the brain to release specific chemicals into the body. If I’m having a feeling of well-being then we will feel like it’s a safe world and our system responds creating more safety, our antiaging mechanisms kick in. If my heart feels threatened then stress chemicals will fill the body and there’s no room for the immunity, your antiaging goes in to fight or flight mode. It Is all based upon the quality of how I am feeling.
Our indigenous ancestors have always believed and now those at heartmath institute are now finding that when we feel specifically–appreciation, gratitude, care, or compassion this creates optimized well-being, a place of healing in our bodies. This signal between our heart & mind is a very low frequency signal. It is such a low-frequency it is almost the same frequency as where Whales communicate.

gregg-braden-quote_healing_020915Out of the horror of 9/11 some amazing scientific discoveries were made–our satellites positioned thousands of miles above the earth–every 30 minutes the satellites send a signal that tells us how strong The magnetic field of the earth really is. It ebbs and flows each day. On 9/11 there was a huge spike and the researchers had never seen a spike like this before or on both satellites. They were trying to figure out what on earth happened & this led the researchers to understand the collective heart based response, The human emotion that was outpouring in a particular time of that day. It was so powerful that it coupled with the magnetic field of the earth. It showed how everything is connected to the field. It took a tragedy to understand the connection, but what heartmath is trying to to decide is if they can utilize the same connection without tragedy.
Can heart based coherence bring people together in peace. Heartmath has a coalition has sensors throughout the world trying to decipher human emotions trying to see how to bring about human coherence throughout the world.

2012-11-24_1353769230Well, I hope you will have an open mind, look at the possibilities, have learned something new, and can leave this page a little better. Have a beautiful day. Peace to you.   -H

THANKS RASBANDS!! I wanted to share a special shout out to some good friends who made me feel very loved and connected in this world. Since I have been very sick, a special delivery was dropped on my door step. It was a basket full of LOVE and care. It was filled to the brim with sweet notes, favorite things to help battle colds, OJ, books, mags, a movie, a get well bear, natural oils….and so many sweet things to help me feel a little better. It was a loving gesture and very appreciated. Thanks Rasbands!! Love and appreciate you guys.

What is the point to suffering?

Suffering. What is it & why is it essential to our growth?? I just read a great metaphor that goes along with this idea…“Accepting suffering seems to go against our instincts, even if we vaguely understand that acceptance is the currency that will procure our freedom.  An ocean of ignorance, misunderstanding, and fear lies between our rejection of suffering and our acceptance of it. Crossing that ocean is the spiritual journey. It leads us from the shore of bewilderment to the shore of understanding, from fear to freedom.” -Elizabeth Lesser, The Seeker’s Guide

boat-on-oceanIsn’t that a beautiful image. To me it is like being caught in a thunderstorm upon the sea. Everywhere you look things are not clear, there is haze, there is pain, fear, there is misunderstanding. But all you can do is strive to go forward, to get through the storm. You go forward, through the suffering, through any struggle to see clearly what lies beyond. You finally make it out of the suffering and find a place of calm. I truly believe you must have a balance of suffering to instill an opening of growth.

Look at your own life—when you have suffered, what has been the outcome?? Did you feel you came out of the situation wiser? Did you follow your heart through the pain & in the end seemed to feel lighter? Did you find yourself in a moment of growth or reflection? I know for me personally, when the hardest days have hit, I was blessed to walk through it & feel stronger, to learn from the struggles & seek a higher direction. I look back and see how the suffering and struggles changed me & the lessons I learned along the way.

doodle-deepest-pain-654x846“Suffering occurs when your ideas about how things ought to be don’t match how they really are.” -Brad Warner

We go through life and have many moments and situations where we think things, ideas or people should match how we think things should be. When we place our own judgements, our own misconceptions, our own expectations upon things outside of ourselves, we are bound for suffering. ‘BOUND for SUFFERING’ this just hit me! When we expect things outside ourselves to be a certain way, we are almost setting ourselves up, we are tying & binding our heart to suffering.   This is a very personal hard lesson for me. I get stuck expecting people to do certain things, to treat me a certain way, to respect and understand me, but this is a pathway to my own suffering. I can’t expect anything of anyone, but myself.  This is an ongoing lesson for my life & I strive to grow in finding patience with this need. I have to be gentle and understand I am human!

28551-divine-love-is-for-everyone-it-is-not-selective-it-is-alwaysThe Buddha said, “The root of suffering is attachment.” 

I think we as humans are experts at the relationships of attachment. I think most of us grow up and become attached to expectations, the future, our jobs, our status, our title, where & what we need to be doing, what others think, what ‘happiness’ or ‘success’ equals….there are so many directions and attachments that can and will lead to suffering. I think when we are able to let go of the [FEAR] of material attachments, to external obligations, and take the time to connect with our real, deep-rooted roots[DIVINE LOVE]…then suffering will be nothing but the lessons we learn and the roads we have walked beyond.

chemin-du-coeur_ChooseLoveOverFearpain-and-suffering-have-come-into-your-life-but-remember-pain-sorrow-suffering-are-but-the-kiss-of-quote-1Suffering-is-optional-Counselling-Tasmania-Deborah-Hill-Spiritual-growth-Spirit-Mind-Body-Holistic-Counsellor-Coachtumblr_ngsfwk6SSx1sz8z7wo1_400b54bc6f71643e4e36d0768373fe84b98CharactercannotbedevelopedineaseandquietOnlythroughexperienceoftrialandsufferingcanthesoulbestrengthenedambitioninspiredands_zpse49bbf1820130522-181431Have a beautiful day. Peace to you. -H

The Soundtrack of your life. What are you playing?

music-finds-the-secret-places-of-the-soulI have always had a fascination with music, the soundtrack of our lives and the way it can affect us–good or bad.  I think my first real experience with the power and influence of music was when I was a teenager and my brother had been talking to me about taking his own life.  Of course, I was worried and did my best as a young teen to help, but in the end, he followed his personal need & took our family car off a cliff. Luckily, he survived, even though the car was totalled (a dime on the car floor was bent in half), he was thrown from the car into a snow bank & was able to walk out of the canyon alive. After a few days, he shared a scary story about the power of music. While he was driving down the canyon the song, “Devil Inside” came on & in this instant he steered the car off the cliff. I cannot say this song or the energy behind it had any possible cause, but I can tell you that my brother distinctly remembered this song playing & then taking the car off the cliff.

So, why am I sharing this story?? Because I have always believed good or bad—music can have a powerful affect & we need to be aware of what we are playing as the soundtracks of our lives.

Here is another alarming study to show the harm of harsh music (I shared this in my positive vs negative post) but incase you missed it: Sixteen-year-old David Merrell, a student at Nansemond River High School in Suffolk, Va., thought that the loud sounds of hard-rock music must have a bad effect on its devoted fans and came up with a way to test that damage.

Merrell got 72 mice and divided them into three groups: one to test a mouse’s response to hard rock, another to the music of Mozart and a control group that wouldn’t listen to any music at all, rock or classical.
The young vivisectionist got all the mice accustomed to living in aquariums in his basement, then started playing music 10 hours a day. Merrell put each mouse through a maze three times a week that originally had taken the mice an average of 10 minutes to complete.

Over time, the 24 control-group mice managed to cut about 5 minutes from their maze-completion time. The Mozart-listening mice cut their time back 8-and-a-half minutes.
But the hard-rock mice added 20 minutes to their time, making their average maze-running time 300 percent more than their original average.
Need we say more? Well maybe we do. Merrell told the Associated Press that he’d attempted the experiment the year before, allowing mice in the different groups to live together.
 “I had to cut my project short because all the hard-rock mice killed each other,” Merrell said. “None of the classical mice did that.” (taken from edu-cyberpg.com)

So, please be aware of the negative music that you may have within your life or in the lives of those you love.

100101951_zps319d376eSo here are some great discoveries, wonderful articles, good information about how music helps heal.

How music heals 

Music can produce direct biological changes, such as reducing heart rate, blood pressure and cortisol levels. There are so many proven positives to good music. Here are only some of them…Eases pain, anxiety, motivates, increases workout endurance, improves sleep quality, enhances blood vessel function, reduces stress, induces a meditative state, helps with depression, elevates mood, improves cognitive performance, helps people perform better in high-pressure situations, relaxes and more… (to read further details on the above benefits go to http://greatist.com/happiness/unexpected-health-benefits-music)

There is also preliminary evidence showing that listening to music can boost immune system function by decreasing stress hormones and increasing growth hormones. These changes should prime the body to be in a better state for recovering from and resisting illnesses, but the research is weak thus far and needs further investigation. -jamescleararticle

There are a range of studies that link music to happiness and pleasure in different ways. Despite the differences in the individual studies, the scientific consensus on the topic is that music does stimulate the same areas of the brain that trigger pleasure in other activities. A range of studies have found that listening to pleasurable music stimulates the mesocorticolimbic system in the brain, which is the same “pleasure center” that is triggered by humor, tasty food, and even cocaine. In this way, you could say that music is like a drug. If music makes you happy, then it might be possible that it is good for your health. -jamesclear.com (great article http://jamesclear.com/music-therapy)

One of the reasons why listening to music is so healing for us is due to the power of musical intervals.When we listen to all the intervals in the musical scale it is profoundly healing for our body and our mind. Listening to musical intervals is good for: Insomnia, Getting babies to sleep, Cancer, Joint Problems, Depression, Anxiety and most illnesses. -Positivehealth.com

Music Healing Mental Illness: Nowhere is this legacy more clear or important than in the movement to use music to treat mental illness. One in four(link is external) adults in the U.S. suffers from a mental illness in a given year, yet only 40 percent(link is external) receive treatment. The public health implications are considerable; mental health issues cost the world $2.5 trillion(link is external) annually in health care costs, loss of functioning and loss of life.     We now know through controlled treatment outcome studies that listening to and playing music is a potent treatment for mental health issues. Research demonstrates that adding music therapy to treatment improves symptoms and social functioning amongschizophrenics(link is external). Further, music therapy has demonstrated efficacy as an independent treatment for reducing depression(link is external)anxiety(link is external) and chronic pain(link is external).  -psychologytoday.com

In his book “Awakenings,” the British-American neurologist Oliver Sacks writes of patients who went from being catatonic to fully functional when music was added to their environment.  -WallStreetJournal article

Another article about “Alive Inside” documentary about patients with dementia, bipolar, schizo…and how music is a backdoor that awakens something inside. http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865611277/Alive-Inside-is-a-testament-to-the-healing-power-of-music.html?pg=all

open-door-gabriela-insuratelu“Music might provide an alternative entry point” to the brain, because it can unlock so many different doors into an injured or ill brain, said Dr. Gottfried Schlaug, a Harvard University neurologist. Pitch, harmony, melody, rhythm and emotion — all components of music — engage different regions of the brain. And many of those same regions are also important in speech, movement and social interaction. If a disease or trauma has disabled a brain region needed for such functions, music can sometimes get in through a back door and coax them out by another route, Schlaug says.

“In a sense, we’re using musical tools to particularly engage certain parts of the brain and then teach the brain new tricks — new tools — to overcome an impairment,” he says.

Reading: Research suggests that people with dyslexia, or difficulty reading, also fare poorly on tests of auditory processing. Their timing is also poor. They have difficulty filtering out unwanted background noise and “tuning in” to sounds — such as a teacher’s instruction — that they want to hear. Intensive music instruction has been found to improve those skills, and with them, some skills related to reading.

Movement: If you’re old enough, recall John Travolta walking down the street to the song “Stayin’ Alive” in the opening scene of “Saturday Night Fever.” Now imagine a patient with Parkinson’s disease, a degenerative brain condition that affects the initiation and smooth completion of movement. Here’s where music’s rhythmic qualities appear to get in the back door of a patient’s brain and provide a work-around to brain functions degraded by Parkinson’s. By engaging the network of regions that perceive and anticipate rhythm, music with a steady, predictable beat can be used to cue the brain’s motor regions to initiate walking.

Once off the dime, a Parkinson’s patient can use the music’s beat to maintain a steady, rhythmic gait, like John Travolta.

“It works well and it works instantaneously, and it’s hard to think of any medication that has this effect,” Schlaug says.

Neuroscientists suspect that music may work in much the same way for stutterers, who can experience difficulties initiating speech and maintaining a steady flow of words. Case studies have long observed that when stutterers sing, their halting speech patterns disappear. Music’s predictable beats may help them initiate speech and continue fluently.

Memory: The progressive degeneration of memory in Alzheimer’s disease cannot be reversed or slowed by any intervention. But music can temporarily unlock memories for patients who have lost their grip on nearly every other detail of their daily life and relationships.

Preemies’ weight gain: An Israeli study, published December in the journal Pediatrics, found that playing Mozart quietly in neonatal intensive care units supported the weight gain of premature infants by slowing their rate of energy expenditure. Babies exposed over two days to 30 minutes of music (drawn from, yes, an Israeli “Mozart for Baby” CD) slowed their metabolisms, helping to accelerate their growth.      -LATImes Article

music-and-focusA number of studies show that music therapy – the use of music for medical goals – can reduce pain. In a 2001 study on burn patients, whose burns must be frequently scraped to reduce dead tissue, researchers found that music therapy significantly reduced the excruciating pain. Patients undergoing colonoscopy also seem to feel less pain and need fewer sedative drugs if they listen to music during the procedure, according to several studies. Another study done at Glasgow Caledonian University found that people who were listening to their favorite music felt less pain and could stand pain for a longer period.       Deforia Lane, director of music therapy at the University Hospitals Ireland Cancer Center in Cleveland, has found an improvement in immune response among hospitalized children who played, sang, and created music compared to children who did not get music therapy.    Research conclusions have identified how the affect of music could replicate the effects of hormone replacement therapy in the prevention of Alzheimer’s disease and dementia.

Music that a person likes – but not music that is disliked – activates both the higher, thinking centers in the brain’s cortex, and, perhaps more important, also the “ancient circuitry, the motivation and reward system,” said experimental psychologist Robert Zatorre, a member of the team.  

The brain grows in response to musical training in the way a muscle responds to exercise. Researchers at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston discovered that male musicians have larger brains than men who have not had extensive musical training.   -wakeup-world.com (to read the whole article–interesting http://wakeup-world.com/2013/10/08/9-healing-benefits-of-music/)

imagesStudies have proven that music can beneficially affect heart rate, blood pressure, respiration rate and shifts in emotions and energy levels. Even more interestingly, the research has proven that the healing power of music goes beyond humans and extends to the animal world. The mood enhancing capability of music has provided tranquil restorations to animals that have been previously abused or neglected. The animals connect with the tones and tempos as a source of relaxation, just as we connect with music in a similar manner.  -Massagetoday.com

Great article: Prescription with Pleasure: The Healing Power of Music http://health.howstuffworks.com/wellness/natural-medicine/alternative/prescription-with-pleasure-the-healing-power-of-music.htm

Well, I hope I have given you enough food for thought on this one. Feel your mind and your life with good things!!

Peace to you.  -H

The search for Positive vs Negative

My daughter recently had a Science experiment to perform and we put our heads together and I made a few suggestions in ways to find Positive vs Negative energy and how it works in our lives. It was a really fun project to work on together, so I thought our findings may be interesting to you too!!

children-playing-videogamesWHAT ARE YOU PLAYING/WATCHING? I had heard about a test to tell if a particular video game had positive or negative energy. OUR TEST: We gathered up 7 different types of video games/movies (Playstation Destiny, Wii Daring Game for Girls, Crash Bandicoot, Wii Leela, SourceCode (PG-13 movie), Wii Christmas game, Wii 007 game), Put them in empty boxes with no covers (so no one knew what was inside). We then took six kids (ages 8-12) and had each kid hold each video & feel if it made them feel stronger or weaker. As the parent I would push down on the arm holding the video/game & could feel if it made them stronger or weaker. We then looked inside to see the results. It was fascinating.  The results were on target every time. The negative (violent–Destiny, 007, SourceCode) games would make the child weaker in their physical strength.     You may be skeptical at this moment, but I wanted someone else’s opinion. We were visiting my brother-in-law (Harvard grad) & thought he would be a perfect one to get in on this test, especially since his boys play video games non-stop!! He was a little skeptical and wanted to see it for himself. He took the games & tested them on his son. He couldn’t believe it!! He could literally see and feel the difference in the physical change. It was amazing!! Try it out yourself. Just know this—adults are a little more hard to determine because they try so hard to physically stay strong & you need to have harder (prob R) rated violence to get results. My belief—Adults are slightly jaded to negative energy. Try it and see for yourself. Good luck!!

if-we-understood-the-power-of-our-thoughts-betty-eadieWHAT ARE YOU SAYING? In this experiment we took the information from Dr. Emoto’s work with rice. Here is a link to his experiment: 

We did the same thing. We took rice & placed the same amount into two different containers. We labeled ours “I hate you. You are Stupid” and “I Love you” After about 2.5 weeks they both had mold, but the negative labeled rice had more mold. Many people have conducted this experiment and have been amazed at what happens. While I was at my daughter’s science fair I talked with a couple who had done this experiment with their family over a year ago. They shared how the positive rice never got mold & is still mold free after a year. WOW!! They said the Negative rice turned black.

Here was another great illustration of this idea:

plant-thought-experiment-love-511x315To begin, the children were given 2 plastic containers with a bunch of green beans and cotton pads. The task was to grow the beans sprouts in 2 separate containers, one marked with ”Love” & the other container marked with “Anger”. Each day they were to talk to the green beans. The container with “Love”, they had to say all sorts of positive things, direct their positive energy toward it and talk to it with love and compassion.  On the other hand, for the container marked with “Anger”, they had to direct anger and talk to it negatively, even to shout at it. After one week, they brought their 2 containers of beans sprouts with much enthusiasm and showed me the visible difference in terms of how the growth of the beans sprouts.  See photographs below. One could visibly see the “Love” beans sprouts grew healthily taller with luscious leaves whereas the beans sprouts in “Anger” containers had stunted growth or some died prematurely with dried leaves. – See more at: http://yourpresenceheals.com/love-vs-anger/#sthash.XQ5iIL9d.dpuf

Try it out and see for yourself. It is a good experiment to try with your family & share the lesson of how words have an affect.

dog_listening_to_ipodWHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO? We did some research on music and its affect and the results were pretty amazing and also disturbing. We came across David Merrill’s project on Music and Mice. Here is the description of the experiment. It is pretty alarming. Sixteen-year-old David Merrill, a student at Nansemond River High School in Suffolk, Va., thought that the loud sounds of hard-rock music must have a bad effect on its devoted fans and came up with a way to test that damage.
Merrill got 72 mice and divided them into three groups: one to test a mouse’s response to hard rock, another to the music of Mozart and a control group that wouldn’t listen to any music at all, rock or classical.
The young vivisectionist got all the mice accustomed to living in aquariums in his basement, then started playing music 10 hours a day. Merrill put each mouse through a maze three times a week that originally had taken the mice an average of 10 minutes to complete.

Over time, the 24 control-group mice managed to cut about 5 minutes from their maze-completion time. The Mozart-listening mice cut their time back 8-and-a-half minutes.
But the hard-rock mice added 20 minutes to their time, making their average maze-running time 300 percent more than their original average.
Need we say more? Well maybe we do. Merrill told the Associated Press that he’d attempted the experiment the year before, allowing mice in the different groups to live together.
 “I had to cut my project short because all the hard-rock mice killed each other,” Merrill said. “None of the classical mice did that.” (taken from edu-cyberpg.com)

Another interesting experiment was Music and Plants done by In 1973 Dorothy Retallack at the Colorado Women’s College in Denver wrote a book The Sound of Music and Plants (it’s still for sale). Her research consisted of playing different music to identical groups of plants, one group got rock and another easy listening. After two weeks, the plants in the soothing-music area were uniform in size, lush and green, and were leaning between 15 and 20 degrees toward the radio. The plants in the rock music chamber had grown tall but were drooping, the flowers had faded and the stems were bending away from the radio. By the end of two weeks, most of the plants in the rock music chamber were dying whilst the easy listening ones were growing abundantly.

23-copy-copyAll the experiments were very useful in trying to find Positive vs Negative energy and how what we say, listen to, play, and watch can definitely have an impact on our lives. I challenge you to take this information to your families, do some of your own experiments to see for yourselves the positive and negative things we put into our daily lives.

-Peace to you. Heather

Your Storybook

tell-your-story-concept“We are all stories in the end, so make yours a good one.”

Do you know anyone in your life that every time you talk to them they are sharing the same stories?? My brother was over a couple of weeks ago & began telling his side of a fight with his wife. I had heard this same story over and over & was not about to listen to him and the energy he was carrying. I got up from the table & told him to be aware of the energy he is carrying. You can imagine he was a bit offended & shared with me a few explicit words. I know that sounds a bit heavy, but I was tired of hearing the victim, the “stories”, the same issues that continue to recur. Over 15+ years I have had countless conversations, heart felt moments, family meetings with him & I think at that moment, I was done. I invited he and my Mom (who was part of the conversation) to go outside & sit on the patio to continue their discussion, to go downstairs into my mothers apt, anywhere. I just wanted his energy away from me.

 

carryThere is definitely an energy that people carry & often times the stories we tell ourselves and others, is like a heavy bag filled with negative energy that we carry around. When someone gets offended, hurt, in a fight with someone, they begin to pull out items from their bag, items that are from the past, items that they need to hold onto to feel solidified or justified in the “story” they share or tell others & even themselves.

 

 

1524756_816129571735525_1582158071_nYOUR STORY

What would your storybook be like?

Would it be a heavy story filled with others constantly hurting, past hurts that need forgiving, lies you have told yourself, not finding the love you need, continuing to surround yourself with people that don’t lift or build, self-loathing, self-limiting, lots of villains??

OR Would your storybook be a story of overcoming obstacles, moments that may have been hard, but you came out stronger, you learned, you continue to grow, you seek higher places, people who lift you…

I want you to truly look at the stories you tell people—is it always gossip? What kind of energy does it hold? Do you feel good when you are telling others about yourself, do you feel drained by friends and family, do you feel good about where you are, or do you need to go a little deeper to work on the story that is your life.

Look at the different chapters of your life–do you focus on the negative, hard moments or have you been able to see them as learning and growing moments.

Are there things you would do differently–let them go, be gentle with yourself, begin to see those things differently within your mind. Let go of regret, let go of missed opportunities—it is all in the past.

From this moment on you can think of things you would like in your life—write those dreams down and begin to take a small step towards having those things in your life. Don’t ever give up on possibility.

 

Story_bookWrite. Journal. Doodle. Create images of the story of your life…see if you notice a pattern, the same stories that play in your mind, things that make you smile, moments that you love, the little things that make your story yours. Work on going forward in your life and not getting stuck with a big bag of “victim” on your back.

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Even Coldplay’s new album “Ghost Stories” has amazing drawings with details from the bands life. Check it out and see the details held within the album booklet. coldplay-ghost-stories-poster-400x470

Something to Think About

Photo-from-ABM._V359247896_Let go of the CONTROL to hold on to the HAPPINESS.

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“Never allow anyone to rain on your parade and thus cast a pall of gloom and defeat on the entire day. Remember that no talent, no self-denial, no brains, no character, are required to set up in the fault-finding business. Nothing external can have any power over you unless you permit it. Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealously, and envy. Guard your fragile life carefully. Only God can shape a flower, but any foolish child can pull it to pieces.” 
Og Mandino

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“The control center of your life is your attitude.”  -unknown